Yes, that sounds a bit like bad luck. But that is not our biggest problem right now, whether there are more or fewer children nearby.
I did some more calculations regarding the private property.
The commute to me is 24km, 23 minutes. To my wife, it's 22-25 minutes (varies), 32km, half on the highway. I think 64km a day is already a lot. Together, this results in additional costs of about €200+/month, and with inflation, over 30 years that quickly adds up to around €100,000 in extra costs. Compared to a 15km commute.
We are seriously considering canceling completely and looking for something closer with municipalities and portals instead. An extra €200 per month on the loan is a lot, that's more than 10%. And the costs keep increasing. The plot is nice though, on a nice street and we would have it secured. It's a real struggle right now.