I find it super reassuring that my conventional electrical system will just work and will never require updates or maintenance from me
But eventually Shellys will be added
That contradicts itself. If a security vulnerability appears with the Shellys or any protocol becomes vulnerable, you have to update. Especially with the Shellys, you should constantly keep an eye on the firmware changelogs. Those things are absolutely not error-free.
In contrast, I know numerous KNX systems that have been running flawlessly for well over 10 or nearly 20 years without any "intervention." KNX, to stick with the example, is old and comparatively slow, but also incredibly robust. Current competitors will first have to match that lifespan. Of course, when everything is brought onto IP and servers come into play, which ultimately are also online, you may have to take care of it here as well.