What I find a bit difficult is to commit at 34 years old that there will be no more children, no partner with possibly a space-consuming hobby (e.g., dogsledding...) etc. Then you stand there with your small house... Gardening: it always depends on how I design my garden. There are certainly low-maintenance options. Yes, I can understand that it sometimes annoys to be surrounded by people who don’t have the same life rhythm as you do. There is a house rule for that. Quite simple. And usually, you are allowed to run the washing machine from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. What exactly is a family with a toddler supposed to do who vomits and poops all over from head to toe at night? Wait until 8 a.m. to start the washing machine? I would also run the washing machine at 3 a.m. and at most explain to my neighbors the next day why it was like that. Grow a thick skin, check what is written in the house rules, and refer complainers to them. Otherwise, I would first continue to stay in the affordable and spatially quite comfortable (75 sqm for one person is okay!) cooperative apartment and continue to increase my equity. Keep looking to see if something interesting appears in the existing stock, continue to inform myself about home builders and concepts, educate myself at craft fairs (if they take place again) about building technology and interior design, and continue to respond to the nagging housemates with a smile that you strictly follow the house rules (a smile is the best way to show someone your teeth!). And then it will probably become clear whether your private situation will stay the same or not. And if THAT exact property comes along, you can go for it. Whether it’s a plot of land, the offer from a general contractor, or existing property is totally irrelevant. And since you will have diligently accumulated knowledge and equity by then, you will also have a much better starting position. And possibly a partner who moves in with you (and every bank loves that! Two who pay! Great! Cheers!).
I was never particularly fond of children, but I think at 34 I would not categorically rule out that one might still come. I wouldn’t completely disregard that.