Just on the topic of the title: "your experiences with self-awarded contracts"
We got an architect who created the floor plans for us and submitted the building application on our behalf. I then selected the structural engineer, shell builder, carpenter, roofer, plumber, screed specialist, etc., myself from our area based on recommendations and reputation. I preferred companies that had already worked together. Doors and windows from Poland.
The bank only cared that the architect's stamp was on the cost estimate. Since then, there have been advance payments with which I pay the invoices of the trades. Every few months, there is a list of expenses and a photo of the construction progress sent to the bank for the next advance payment.
It goes quite smoothly and without inquiries from the bank. We also have a lot of personal work involved (drywall, electrics, flooring, ETICS, painting, exterior plaster, media shafts, wastewater). The online banks did not want to factor in so much personal work. At the Sparkasse, that was not an issue. They only wanted a list from us stating what my helpers do for a living so they knew that there was also "experience" behind it.
I'll tell you right away: it is an enormous amount of work and your job must allow you to be very flexible so that you can show up at the construction site at any time. Without professional construction supervision, one should think carefully about this.
On the other hand, you can save a lot of money through personal work and self-awarded contracts. In the end, we will land at under <300K€ for 200 sqm of living space, without making compromises on furnishing/equipment. Including ancillary construction costs.