Corner plot with a granny flat

I have looked at your post with the patient pencil drawing (no offense to pencil/colored pencil drawings – I love them) and I really hit my, your, our limits

Yes, then the granny flat gets the nice east side and southern sun and the main apartment has a narrow two-part garden.
But the main apartment should not move too far to the west street side either, otherwise you lose privacy.

So that we don’t forget the desired garage (actually there were 2).
It simply only fits on the east side. There is no reasonable access on the west corner.
The granny flat needs a bike/storage room, which can then be placed in the corner (this is a bit strange, we would always have to go to the other side of the house for the vehicles – but okay)

So I keep coming back to a rectangle with a maximum width of 12 m and length of 11.5 m.

Firstly for understanding: there is usually no optimum... many or few compromises lead to different results.

But you totally contradict yourself: sometimes it’s the west side you want, then it’s the east side. Then west is a narrow strip, then you definitely want to go there.
Here you yourself say that all of that is quite silly, garage and storage exactly on the wrong side. Reason is close to envy.

With all these thoughts, personally I do not at all come to 12 x 11.5 and this division.

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What do you think?

If I roughly continue with the drawing with proper exterior walls, I arrive at a ground floor that is not worth considering an upper floor

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Kitchen in the main apartment is tolerable, but what about the living room? And in other plans you have criticized a shorter hallway as too long, a more optimal kitchen as too open.
Your mother will complain about the noise from car doors next to her bedroom window but can look into your garden. A south-facing window in the kitchen will surely be a MUST?! The guest room is just barely 2.20 m wide.

I have dug up a draft from last week:

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The views correspond roughly to what was posted before. Due to the stair position, the upper floor is more furnishable.
The garden house is at the entrance to the granny flat, you can make a garage at the edge parking space. The utility room/bathroom situation is not mature.

I forgot:
It also makes no sense to additionally turn the granny flat into a rentable apartment with a full bedroom in a struggle, on top of Mom's wishes. If you do that, then the parking and storage situation must also be clarified. This game of musical chairs in the yard twice a day is something nobody wants to deal with with a stranger tenant or two people. Furthermore, in the north there are no paths between the house and the parking spaces, so someone always has to pass by the other’s bathroom or bedroom window.

Is something more from you coming here ?

Will we be seeing something from you again ?

Thanks for asking

Well, what can I say... we are not any wiser.
Whether east or west side is still not decided.

This week I met with the architect again. A new design this year is going to be tight.

Afterwards, my mother said that she would actually prefer a completely different floor plan for the apartment. More like a long narrow space with an open kitchen and island. Now I’m completely at a loss.
One really has to emphasize here, she absolutely cannot visualize such plans spatially.
And her expectations are quite high and not very willing to compromise.
Well, wrong forum for psychology.

Actually, this is also why we are considering not carrying through with the whole thing.
That would be a shame. There is no other plot left here.

I dug up another design from last week

Definitely the best, but the 3m distance to the street is too little. A 3m garden is already quite poor—and if there were even a 1m wide hedge planted there (zoning plan)—there would be only 2m left.

Therefore, we still tend to align the house straight ahead.

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I also briefly considered whether it could be planned as 2 semi-detached houses.
But if you have any other ideas—bring them on.

Well, her demands are very high and she is not very willing to compromise.
Well, wrong forum for psychology.

Not necessarily the wrong forum, because there might be other people here who have experience with this.
On the one hand, I think it's good that Schwimu has her firm, whatever the nature of, ideas. At the same time, it is just as important that it works for Ruch. Obviously, that doesn’t seem to be the case, and I would fear that half-hearted compromises made by both sides will most likely flare up later and become really big problems when things can no longer be reversed.
I lived with my parents in my house for many years without problems, but they were rather too undemanding, so they were more "forced" into nice things. In your case here, I would actually look for separate options but not pursue this solution any further with a compulsion to succeed. There are plenty of examples of such sad dramas, with the initial story the risk would be too high on both sides.

It really needs to be emphasized here again, she absolutely cannot imagine such plans spatially.

That is not a big deal, but then she should be able to trust you to adequately consider her needs or not, and then better keep her hands off it.

That would be a shame.

It would be a shame, yes, but a built family drama would be a different caliber.

Not necessarily the wrong forum, because there might be other people here who have had experiences with it.
I think it's good on the one hand that Schwimu has her fixed, however formed, ideas.

Thanks, yes I have already read a lot here... and I wouldn’t put "my" mother in a 35sqm apartment without light either.

I lived with my parents for many years without problems in my house.

We have done that too—and otherwise we are used to always having some relative living directly with us. So I don’t see it as a problem.

It would really be a shame if we build alone—and then she would say: Oh, if only I had.

And because I like the idea so much:
If she doesn’t participate—we’ll still build with a granny flat—maybe a little smaller.