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Saruss, a daycare mother, simply has much, much more experience with children than one does oneself, unless one works in this field. It is also about the fact that the child, as nature intended - see [Naturvölker], comes into contact with many other children early on.

This is also not a contradiction with weaning. Our daughter is still breastfed, but only at night. During the day, she independently demands real food and would not be satisfied with just breast milk.

Staying at home for 3 years may perhaps strengthen the mother-child relationship even more extremely, but on the other hand, the child lacks much, much input from the outside through other children. And this is how children learn best.

Why slow down? Is someone getting upset? Always these insinuations... And only now you say that there isn’t ONE way. That’s how it is, but before you presented it somewhat one-sidedly – and even if you didn’t mean it that way, just accept that’s how it came across…

I think very highly of the concept of early care and have noticed very quickly in the children the leaps they have made in that environment. And I think nothing of the idea that a child stays at home until kindergarten age (i.e. from about three) – or even worse: is mostly cared for by the grandparents…

1. I did not address you personally 2. I explicitly stated in previous posts about THAT WAY that it is only my personal opinion (even if you overlooked that) 3. I think nothing of the concept of early care – the leaps you experience are made by the children themselves (if they are not totally neglected), the daycare provider/kindergarten is not involved in that (by the way, this has also been generally proven outside of our individual cases!)

My "big one" is now starting kindergarten at three and I can see that none of the other children (of the same age or younger) have skills that mine does not have, and their social behavior is appropriate as well. Through contact with other parents, we know that this has been the case all along.

Otherwise, you primarily consider your child and your experience, but there are plenty of large and reputable studies that could not find a general advantage of early care. There are certainly differences in individual cases (e.g. if the parents speak poor German, early kindergarten is more sensible for the career and development, it has been determined), but otherwise not.

Edit: And many daycare providers have no training at all and you have to choose very carefully because small children can’t really tell "how the day was." Often there is poor care or upbringing but only supervision (then it’s just easy money). I know people in the field; I can only advise you to really take well-known daycare providers personally (not just hearsay from anyone).

Sebastian is completely right about language and social behavior. You can always clearly see which children attended [TaMu] and which did not. I also have to say that I am glad to have done it with [TaMu]. The independence is amazing. Our little one behaves more like a 4-year-old and not like just under 3. But really, everyone has to decide for themselves; often enough things are copied incorrectly. And one more thing, the financial aspect will always play a role, but as Evo and Sebastian say, the mothers are missing something, even if it’s just communication with adults without a little one wanting something every 2 minutes.

I knew something like this was coming - just on that: Of course I only consider my own child - YOU should learn to read. Studies etc. are nonsense to me - we raise our child the way we want. And of course I can only reflect on what I have experienced myself - but it's impressive that you want to show that your way is simply the best.

And you do that and believe it... you may also.

By the way, you quoted me, so I feel addressed. So, alright - feel free to justify yourself again, I've said everything.

Edit: And many day-care providers have no training at all and you have to be very careful when choosing, because small children can't really tell "how the day was". Often they are poorly cared for or not really raised but just looked after (then it’s just easy money). I know people in the field, I can only advise to really choose well-known day-care providers personally (not just heard of them from someone).

And that disqualifies you... I’ve heard... it's clear what you want to imply with that.

No Sebastian, the discussion arose because others try to show with examples and arguments that kindergarten or daycare was generally the best for small children in the past, and I personally find that wrong. And I have read correctly, and as far as I’m concerned, you may not care about arguments, and I don’t care what you do or don’t do with your children. You just feel too addressed.

You are describing your experiences. However, they do not have universal validity. Just like all the experiences shared here.

It's obvious that everyone thinks they are taking the best path. Why one defends this path more and another less is just strange.

With you, it sounds a bit like, look, my little one is already so mature for her age and that's thanks to the daycare provider. Let children be children. I doubt that children at kindergarten age suffer any major disadvantages in their later life because of the way they were raised.