Building land in the middle of nowhere with the house prices?!

But then there's the question again... do you get accepted into the village community or not. I've always heard that you basically have to be in the volunteer fire brigade or something similar for that. Not everyone has the desire or the time for that. And not everyone is the type for something like that. I like my peace in the evening and don't need to have a beer over the fence with the neighbor...

Because if you don't "fit in" in the village, you can completely forget all that you write about. The risk is not insignificant...

But then the question arises again... do you get accepted into the village community or not. I've always heard that you basically almost have to join the volunteer fire department or something like that. Not everyone is willing to do that or has the time. And not everyone is the type for something like that. I like my peace in the evenings and don't need to have fence-beer with the neighbor...

If you don't "break in" in the village, you can completely forget everything you write about. The risk is not insignificant...

Of course, if you don't want to have anything to do with other people or prefer to have your peace, it will be very difficult to "settle in the village."

If it is important to you, you should just do something for it. By the way, joining the fire department is a great tip! I recently started as a lateral entrant in my mid-40s – besides the direct connection to the core population (and by the way, also to most of the local craft businesses), it's just fun and as a volunteer role quite meaningful for me.

If you want peace and quiet then stay outside and have your peace and quiet. I don't hang around the fence every evening with a beer and I don't associate with people I can't stand. My clubs are manageable.

Many things only exist because of voluntary work. You must not forget that. With all its advantages and disadvantages.

do you become part of the village community or not.

So not everyone has to be super active everywhere. Be open-minded, greet nicely, and if possible, at least look for a community activity somewhere where you can come into contact with people. (Depending on your own interests. It can simply be going to sports once a week) Although I would also recommend this for city people if they don’t want to become lonely ;) But bending over backwards and being the center of every village festival, I wouldn’t consider that a requirement to "fit in".

Only 2-3 days a week in the office sounds somewhat better at first glance, but it doesn't make the commute any shorter! We were talking about 7 + 40 + 20 minutes = 67 minutes with optimal connections and, of course, no waiting time at the stop/station. Is that realistic? Probably not. In the end, it will likely be around 75 minutes per trip with optimal conditions = 2.5 hours per day! And even longer if there is a delay. That would be too much for me, even for 3 times a week.
Commuting by train is relaxed, I did that for a year as well. Sometimes(!) I was able to use the 40 minutes well, but most of the time the time was still wasted.
You just shouldn't sugarcoat it and should carefully check how reliable the connections are during peak hours beforehand. Because missing a train can quickly turn 2.5 hours into 3 hours of commuting per day.

I lived in the countryside in my youth, some of the offers you mentioned were available, but my goodness, how boring that was... This was not least due to the narrow-mindedness of some people, which is certainly not the case everywhere. Just as the range of options varies everywhere. In the city, however, there are simply more opportunities to pursue hobbies beyond [Reiten, Leichtathletik und Co.].