As a layperson, it seems a bit strange to me when someone wants to enlarge the house by almost half. The location must be really good for that. Keep in mind that extensions look nice and practical on paper, but in reality, they can quickly become awkward or dark when you extend or widen existing living space. I live in a very densely built-up area and I often see that such an enlargement is less impressive in reality than people probably expected. Even with skylights in the roof and stuff like that. With poor planning, you end up with a lot of traffic area and little light in the middle part. I would rather plan "straight" and very well than build too generously.
Depending on how big your family is, I would see if it’s possible to manage with less extra space. That would also be cheaper. Or just bite the expensive bullet and make a proper extension. The 100,000 euros are a lot, but in my opinion, not excessive for fully usable living space.