For us, it doesn’t feel very cozy because it is very long and you always see everything, and because the dining table is uncomfortably placed in the middle of the whole room.
I briefly skimmed through your own thread... oh dear... things really got heated there—
I thought to myself that you can definitely make something nice out of your house. Just take someone with you who you’ve seen can design spaces beautifully. I think you just have to realize that designing something nicely isn’t your thing. So look for that person (or those people). Maybe your partner also can’t do it, but that doesn’t matter as long as you both find the right “professional” for it and trust him/her.
From some of your pictures, I see that you like nice things but just don’t manage to put them into practice; I’m the same way in some areas, and then I just stay completely away from it and look for someone who can implement it stylishly.
As a young guy, I once did it so that I commissioned a woman from the field who seemed competent to me to design my apartment nicely; I paid her well for her time. I thought the result was great afterward, and until then I simply kept my mouth shut and paid for what she recommended.
But you have to be prepared to let go of a piano, your fireplace, dining table, etc.
Until now, gray was considered the epitome of gloominess, but as we can see nowadays, you can create beautiful things with it.
And... if it really should depend on one or the other window, then I would get rid of it quickly and have it enlarged. In my old house, I didn’t just use the big Hilti once or twice or had doors moved... but only AFTER you find someone with appropriate, modern design taste.