So first of all, thank you for all your responses. The fact that I was online could have been due to my browser. I just now have time again to reply.
I see that with our financial situation I am met with immense resistance. But I had already suspected that. I do take your comments into consideration, but I’m not yet discouraged. I will first attend the planned appointments with property developers and banks.
I know the other side. My parents also built "on a tight budget," but with even worse financial circumstances, since we were two children. €2800 income, only owned the land, 2 children, and about €230,000 in credit. We didn’t go hungry, the car was always ready to drive (for years we do absolutely everything ourselves there, even big things like engine swaps, transmissions, clutches, etc.). All the family cars haven’t been to a workshop for years. Outdoor landscaping, garage, carport – all done ourselves, all gradually, so there was no financial buffer there either. People just waited and saved. Heating repairs, roof repairs – all done ourselves as well. So we definitely know what we’re talking about.
But well, such extensive self-sufficiency is hardly found these days, which probably explains the strong resistance. By the way, my parents are still not insolvent to this day. Still, thank you for your opinions and your other perspectives. That’s why I came here, for exchange.