House construction project with terrible credit rating and almost zero equity capital :-)

You are right. I mean, I think this "well, that's just how it is in the forum, don't be so sensitive" attitude, I always react sensitively to something like that. Sorry.

That the project as such is completely out of the question is also beyond doubt for me. The question is always how you write something like that. It's a matter of attitude and respect, nothing more and nothing less.

No matter how Manns writes or formulates it, one appears heartless in many eyes because a family with foster children is behind it.

I don't care if black, white, Catholic, Muslim, or foster children. If it doesn't fit, it doesn't fit! PERIOD

No matter how one writes or formulates it, in many eyes you are heartless because a family with foster children is behind it.

I don't care if it's black, white, Catholic, Muslim or simply foster children. If it doesn't fit, it doesn't fit! PERIOD

And that's exactly how you can tell that you (and I think also parts of your "friends") don't understand what several people are pointing out to you nowadays:
It's not about the content of the statement.
Just because you are anonymous here doesn't mean you have to be nonsense.

It's all about the tone. Just look at your first post in this thread. It doesn't get more arrogant and condescending without further background knowledge. The naked truth can also be addressed clearly in a normal tone.

Obviously you don't want to understand. There were many hints here with basically the same content. Most advised to distance yourself from the project. Simply because of feasibility. So far, so good, no problem.

But then there are the members who cannot hold back with judgments about other people. Simply no one here knows the exact background, the situation, or the people themselves being talked about. Nevertheless, immediate human judgment is passed, contraception is advised, one feels sorry for the children, etc. etc. The judgments and generally the "advice" that deeply invades the personal rights are simply completely out of place. Because, as said, no one knows the personal circumstances in detail.

Basically, however, this is a deeply human behavior. By putting others down, one elevates oneself above them. One feels better. A reason why shows like Mitten im Leben are so successful.

But if you really want to help personally, then you have to ask questions. Like for example: how did this situation come about, what do the children in need of care require, what kind of need for care, etc. But those questions did not come from some. Therefore, obviously help is not intended, only judgment. Without knowing background. That then also has nothing to do with "telling the truth." Because that is at most the personal truth which developed without knowing facts.

Content and factual relevance is one thing, appropriate, non-violent communication is another. The way you express yourself, one might think that you are schadenfreude, eager to rub it in once again.

The post I just quoted is once again a prime example. This thread is about a young family that has suffered several strokes of fate. And you talk about pity for poor dogs. The image of humanity you paint here is abysmally low. I don’t know if it’s intentional or if you don’t even realize it, but it runs like a red thread through it.

It definitely fits the "do-gooder" rhetoric.

The topic is settled. The OP has received clear indications that such a project does not make sense.

Let's be honest, none of us would think about building given the financial conditions. No one! Not even under the same conditions. So what does that say about the OP?

Even though the forum is supposed to answer questions, in my view the question itself was unnecessary, because the OP was already aware of the answers beforehand. Moreover, he excluded all the alternatives mentioned afterwards in his first post from the start.

Anyone expecting harmony on such a critical topic is in the wrong place here, and I don’t mean the writing style.