Floor plan of a single-family house with basement, 150 sqm, only single-story allowed

And then he sees the dining table. I can handle that.

But it also works the other way around: When you're eating, you see the front door. Exactly the feeling you then have between peace and rest.. Have. . don’t want. Possibly, the guests' shoes are also standing there, etc.

because the deeper reason seems obvious to me, That you and your wife do not seek unity or a truly mutually agreeable and also sensible solution,

Men and women often have different priorities. That’s not bad, you don’t always have to agree. Unfortunately, the woman’s will in decoration and house building is shaped by other social structures. Colorful pictures on social networks want to be copied out of desire.

In the end, I wonder whether you actually need the bike shed much more than the pantry.

On Pinterest or in nicer decorating, a bike storage room just doesn’t appear.
However, the pantry is often shown, decorated harmoniously in color with the same boxes for light bulbs and white flour.
Tell that to a wife who always got what she wanted. Poor upbringing eventually takes its toll – the man has to endure it if he doesn’t pay attention in time.

This apparently deep-seated desire to finally have a bay window in life,

I already mentioned that: it completely disappears when docking at the property boundary.

It still doesn’t seem like a coherent, JOINT project to me, but rather an endless tug-of-war, and the architect is probably trying somehow to do justice to every side; [...] Why is your wife happy about this little sports field in front of the then narrowing open space? What exactly pleases her about it?

Men and women often have different priorities. That’s not a bad thing, and you don’t always have to agree. Unfortunately, the woman’s will in decoration and house building is shaped by other social structures. Colorful pictures on social networks want to be copied because of the desire to have them.

The woman wants the little sports field because she can’t spatially imagine its stupidity. I already advised in post #61 ...

Get yourself one of those stupid Klickibunti 3D applications I always recommend avoiding when planning a new house, and replicate your current apartment in it. With real measurements of your actual furniture (fitting that in takes longer than drawing the whole place), then she’ll have a comparison between what she can feel and how it looks in a simulation. If she prefers using a smartphone rather than a PC, then choose a pretty app accordingly instead of a PC version. [...] Maybe the architect person should best be a female architect, and your wife even goes there alone, you only represented by a list or something. @roteweste and his wife are very satisfied with Mrs. Forster (whom I recommend with reservations), even in an online consultation (which I categorically advise against). Maybe your wife goes to her alone, and you keep yourself ready to be called in later via Zoom.

… so that the woman goes alone to a professional once and that she is shown in a simulation how her wishes will look built. And conversely, the professional can translate the Pinterest pictures into a dimensioned floor plan sketch for her. When I see in the floor plan the wardrobe cabinets flank a diagonal passage like Castor and Pollux, I get Feng Shui nausea.