Good morning and many thanks for all your suggestions! I am glad that the feedback is so unanimous, even if that means for us that we have to start completely from scratch.
I think many people here feel the same. I recently had the first drafts from us in my hands, and can only say: Uff.
That’s why I would first strike the option of care in this house from the wishlist, because it means that we simply cannot afford this "if-then" security.
This is not just a financial matter. So much is connected to it that I want to say: Good decision!
First, I wonder if a bungalow would even be possible (<=150m² total area, 2 adults, 2 children). A bungalow instead of a 1.5-story house would simplify our home office routines so much, whether chopping vegetables quickly between calls or swapping childcare quickly between appointments, you save a lot of time if you can just knock on the other’s home office door and everything happens on one floor. In addition, I find sloping ceilings very disturbing, both visually and physically, since I love to bump my head on them..
Unfortunately, sloping ceilings will hardly be avoidable due to the development plan (unless flat roofs are permitted?).
Regarding the home office, a change of perspective: thinking in terms of room requirements!
Which rooms are needed? How big should they be approximately?
Then you can look at the arrangement to see how to best accommodate them. There are many other factors - position of entrance door, stairs, plot, and much more. I know many floor plans that allow for an office on the ground floor even with ~140m² total area and that work well. (Whether you actually want the office downstairs is another question. It would drive me crazy to be constantly disturbed.)
And second, how do you explain to the architect what should be different in the new floor plan?
"Sorry, we realized that a bungalow doesn’t suit us. We would like to start again from scratch."
(Between our first draft and the final draft, only two things stayed the same: position and type of stairs and entrance door; otherwise, nothing looks like before.)