Short answers to the emerging questions.
Space for excavation is available at 2200sqm, we are also already having 90cbm of good topsoil delivered by friends from Berlin, as they otherwise have to "dispose" of it expensively and we need to fill the plot well anyway (Brandenburg area, from 40cm only yellow sand), so the approximately 90cbm for the air well don’t weigh that much.
Neighbors’ well is at about 9-11 meters, so I would say the groundwater level is fine and radon is not an issue according to the map (but I would still want to use the option with pond liner).
Air well: Rough costs calculated are 600-800€ for piping, filling material including transport another 1000-1500€ + pond liner, but minus EWT or brine EWT and enthalpy savings. (I find the solution from "Allroundbastler" Leipzig, I believe video 3 or 4, very good)
Flexible pipes in floor slab:

Therefore, the 75mm OD pipes should be well integrable into the 140mm insulation (alternatively insulation under floor slab, noted for the appointment with the architect).
For the 100mm on the upper floor, I think it’s somewhat easier, since they are supposed to disappear in the 200mm ceiling anyway.
For the ceiling heights, we stayed with the classic 2.50m, since we didn’t really see the added value in 200mm.
: "If possible, I would always place valves in the ceiling.", why only in the ceiling?
- better distribution or possibly also because of the "tripping hazard"?
The chimney sweep even said "old is better in his opinion" and therefore pipe under the floor slab, single-flue chimney only, controlled residential ventilation with "chimney function" and pressure sensor switched between chimney and controlled residential ventilation. (even for BIPT chimney).
Regarding kitchen exhaust air, he also suggested possibly contact for a window (quick and dirty) or properly with pipe through wall or floor slab.
Does anyone possibly have input on the arrangement of the valves and possibly the calculation of the volumes?
Thanks already now for your feedbacks. :)