No offense, but the window rebate is just energy nonsense. You build an insulated, airtight house and then have windows with holes installed so that ventilation is available. I also like Katja's design, I would suggest that to the general contractor if you like it yourself.
Apart from that, I am an advocate of [Kontrollierte-Wohnraumlüftung]. We have gas + [Kontrollierte-Wohnraumlüftung] ourselves. Without solar, which is the next crutch economically speaking... We have a demand of ~9kWh per day for hot water. At 6 cents/kWh, that's about €200 per year. With a solar system, I save about 2/3 of that upfront. So around €150. With systems starting at €4000, everyone can calculate for themselves how long it takes to pay off. Even if I assume a heat demand of 15kWh/day (there are only two of us), it still takes over 20 years for anything to actually pay off.
If this can be reconciled with the energy saving ordinance, I would insist on gas + [Kontrollierte-Wohnraumlüftung]. Without solar, there's the additional problem that you save on the buffer tank. Given your space problem, that's not the worst...