Building as a Single Person - Exchange of Experiences

With just over 280 sqm of living space and just over 1000 sqm of ownership land, it is way, way too big for someone living alone and simply a lot of work.

hm...
for me, it all still feels a bit unrounded in thought and far from the dream house.
I can understand that 280/1000 sqm makes a lot of work and is too big for someone, but 160/750 sqm also causes work and can be a hindrance when it comes to holidays or weekend leisure activities with children.

Work means time that I would rather invest in my children, travel, and my job.

I say "never say never," but currently I (since I moved out about 2.5 years ago) am doing very well alone, I can focus on my job, kids, and travel. But even with 140-160 sqm one should easily have room/space for a future eventuality...

I wouldn’t plan with an eventuality in your place – just imagine adding 3 more hybrid rooms to the three children’s rooms... hehe... such large patchwork families are not uncommon ;)

Rental apartment and "building the dream house."

I’m just wondering how many children’s rooms you are planning. We have always had floor plan discussions here, where one or two rooms for weekend children were included. Always teenagers, if I recall correctly. Each child always got their own room... even if it was only for 2 times a month and the respective rooms were just 8-10 sqm.
Just as a note. What you do yourself or what might be better always also depends on the child itself and the upbringing (if you put money aside).

Office, children’s room will certainly both be guest rooms at the same time (with minor remodeling). The office must also fit the spinning bike, unless there is space somewhere for a small fitness room. Two showers should also be in the house (1x ground floor, 1x upper floor).

I would certainly want to plan with at least one guest/children’s room, a large office (which can also be used for overnight stays).

... and here I think that 160 sqm with the addition “just for me” is not well thought out.

I would rather see it like and wait a bit longer and see where the journey goes.
Definitely buy land!
Maybe renovate or partition the current 280 sqm, a shared flat would also be possible?
Or sell and rent first. Create space for travel and leisure and then see in a few years what remains of the kids.

Because a dream house for oneself probably includes fewer large multi-purpose rooms rather than several small ones.

I think you are very influenced by the current situation to distance yourself. Therefore, check whether a new house is the right option now, if there are better ones in the current situation.

Have others done something similar? How did you build? Only for yourselves, or rather a "family house" again, even if you moved in alone? Ultimately decided against a house, pro condominium?

I kept my 3-room terraced house alone after separation, and then wanted to get rid of it and sell it. However, rental apartments over 90 sqm (I can’t manage with less :cool: ) were more expensive than my mortgage payment, so I kept it.
The house my partner and I built “in old age” as well and decided against a family house. That may possibly be a disadvantage in resale, one child would be okay.
We definitely decided against eventualities.
Otherwise, here (with us) there are many houses built and/or inhabited by single persons.
Alone I wouldn’t want to build anymore. I’m currently weighing whether I don’t have better living comfort with a rental apartment and an RV or caravan or mobile home by the sea or lake on a leased plot.

Our situation is not comparable, the approach might be interesting for you. First, consider how we want to live. Besides aspects not further elaborated here, an everyday overview of our living area was important to us. Therefore, we have largely reduced the number of rooms. The children were 17 and 19 at the time of moving in – they should have space to develop and at the same time, not too much space should remain after they move out after a few years. Therefore, we built a small separate living unit for each child and designed our part exactly as it seemed right for us. The children’s apartments can be used as holiday apartments, offices, or guest areas once the children go their own way, without needing daily management. You write that you like a geometrically clear form made of cuboids. My idea is to accommodate a loft-style apartment over 2 floors and a 2-room apartment in one building. The 2-room unit serves the children as long as they often come and stay overnight and can later be used differently – in old age, possibly as a spacious apartment for living in a win-win care situation. I would design the spacious loft in such a way that it does not become cramped if a partner joins.

It was the same for me. Acted according to needs and possibilities.

At 21 I bought a 3-room condominium with 65sqm. Sold 5 years later.

At 26 I bought a terraced house in the middle. Sold 7 years later.

At 33 we bought a semi-detached house. We have been living here for 5 years, the house will be sold during the year.

At 38 I/we (m,44) am building a detached house.

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Amazing! And all that (obviously) without money ... :oops:

But who needs money? After all, you have money!

Not if it happens one after the other and depending on your own needs and possibilities.
I must not count myself among the financial elite here but have nevertheless lived in various own properties.
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Still, a considerable amount of money is needed for the first (and the following) property(ies).

But this is not about money here ...

Amazing! And all that (obviously) without money ... :oops:

But who needs money? After all, you have money!

Start small, then it will work.

I also bought my first owner-occupied condominium in my early 20s. Now the move into the fifth owner-occupied property is imminent (sometimes alone, sometimes unmarried, sometimes married – sometimes without children, sometimes with two children, sometimes with three children, sometimes as a part-time dad). Always according to the respective life situation.

Start small, then it will work. ...

I already understand what you mean :) Still, it doesn't work without money. That's why it's a matter of money. If you don't have any, you can't buy anything ...

Amazing! And all that (obviously) without money ... :oops:

Hmm, first of all I never said anywhere that you don’t need money to buy real estate, and secondly I can tell you, I had no money when I bought the apartment, the money was borrowed from the bank.

The same with the terraced house, no own capital at all.

Only through the good selling price of the terraced house did I have money left later, which flowed into the semi-detached house.

But what do you not need money for, except for air and love?