and also among acquaintances and friends, no one was able to realize this below the mentioned amount -
Besides the sex topic and salary topic, there is a third topic where a lot of lying happens, namely the house topic.
Either people complain because they want to be pitied or they pretend it is only for those who can afford it
Realistically, it is hardly possible to build under 500-600k EUR in 2025 (and yes, we have spoken with many providers of prefabricated houses, solid houses etc.)
This is, for example, a statement. Is it only hardly possible? Then it is possible.
I don’t know who you talked to there, but actually the sellers want and need to sell and make numbers. And yes, under certain circumstances they do that, sorting the wheat from the chaff right away so they don’t waste time with those who either don’t have land or who actually can’t afford it. However, they don’t make their product more expensive than it is. Rather, they understate it – how much house building really costs is noticed with the upgrades and the on-site incidental costs. You can see it yourself in your breakdown with the question mark items.
Construction prices, incidental construction costs, craftsman services, etc. have risen massively in recent years.
We know about the costs. If I take the current advisors here in the forum, many have been hobbyists here for 12 or some years (some repeatedly), some have built several houses or already completed at least two financings, there are those who have more life experience in age than you and your girlfriend combined, but also those who are currently building have the same concerns. But always the current construction figures and costs, interest rates, the desired mainstream in house building and the retreat from large expensive square meters (direct passage from garage, pantry, dressing room), basement, the double garage with the Audi in front, the subsidized granny flat, and even the retreat to a row or semi-detached house are present, while we prolific writers still consider a retreat to be more sensible than viewing it negatively (as the affected often feel).
There are advisors here who have been involved with house building for two, three or four decades (or only in the last year). Like you, they developed a dream back then and live in single-family houses, some more or less what they dreamed of, but certainly with the knowledge of where to save if their own income is not enough for what is seen in glossy brochures (Instagram) or next door or among colleagues and friends.
You can believe them because they want to sell you/nothing.
Many questioners here gradually adapt their big house dream to a more realistic one – and this does not make most unhappy but rather satisfied, because they have something they can comfortably afford.
In this thread, unfortunately, providers 1 and 2 are the unknowns. The question arises: why are there so many question marks whether inclusive or not, why do the offers differ and in what?
It would be helpful if you named the house companies and anonymized your personal data and had the BLB compared. Because further costs are also included there.
Ps: started similarly like you here, his numbers are similar.
https://www.hausbau-forum.de/threads/finanzierung-neubau-was-koennen-wir-uns-leisten.47231/