That sounds organized, good so!
At home it is currently more than exhausting of course, and my (still) wife is suffering a lot because she is emotionally completely unstable. So far she hasn’t even communicated it to her parents out of fear of their reaction. But now, we or rather she have to get through it.
In this respect, you should first think about your own well-being; if not you, then who else?
The suffering will certainly lessen once she is under the other cozy blanket, you shouldn’t let yourself be influenced by that. Your own suffering/anger hit you completely unprepared and painfully dishonestly by comparison. She must now walk her path alone, just as she used to go elsewhere alone and managed without you.
Informing yourself is very good, but if it gets too tight or restricts your future life too much, don’t be sad; one rebuilds several times in life anyway, I see that rather as an opportunity.
I would wish for you that there won’t be any prolonged hanging party or some tangled thing, but a clear cut that gives you the freedom for something completely new afterwards.
Even if back then it was maybe more expensive, today I know that the clear cut was the best decision for my own future; luckily I didn’t get involved in any half-measures.
Having done an extra lap in his homeownership career. In my opinion, SHE comes out of the failed marriage project more disappointed than HE does.
I see it the same way!