Property in good condition financable?

Most men who "get" children go back to working 40 hours a week very quickly after the birth and consequently delegate their "gotten" children to the care of others for a good 45 hours. Very commendable that you handle it differently and take your share of the care work. Not many do.

Let's put it this way: One partner (must) go back to full-time work. But the family does not delegate their child to third parties for a longer time than they themselves have time for the offspring during the week. That would be the case always discussed here, for two full-time jobs. I am not talking about anything else. Although nowadays many more men also get involved at home than before. After the birth, vacation and parental leave then until the end of the first year of life. Totally normal by now – and good so!

Well, I'm not having children just to pass them off for 45 hours a week after six months.

Completely exaggerated, the gentleman with the stick is not joking. _Having_ children, 6 months of raising time, and then a _pass-off_ … the one who can't have a house built works 45 hours.

Completely over the top, the gentleman with the stick is not joking.
_Procuring_ children, 6 months processing time, and then a _deportation_ … he works 45 hours and still can't afford to build a house.

With 45 hours of care time, you don't work 45 hours. The daycare is rarely next to the workplace, so travel time and breaks are added; possibly shopping should also be done without a toddler. That leaves 30 to 35 hours of work time. And that's not unrealistic.

Let's put it this way: One partner (must) go back to work full-time. But the family does not leave their child with third parties for a longer period than they themselves have time for the child during the week. That is the case always discussed here, for two full-time jobs. I'm not talking about anything else.

Although nowadays many more men also get involved at home than before. Vacation after the birth and parental leave towards the end of the first year of life. Totally normal now - and good that way!

Why does one partner have to go back to work full-time? Starting next month my wife will work 25 hours again and I will take eleven months of parental leave. If a man wants, it can also be done differently.

And what you describe as normal and good is an absolute joke. A couple of weeks of vacation and then two months of parental leave at the end of the first year, when the baby is already a toddler and can walk. Where it is simply easy and no real relief for the woman. You are quite a guy.

I assume that this is still a house-building forum and not a "how can I raise my child best" forum.

And looking around, I would say as an old white man that the current system has not brought any real improvement in raising children...

The OP also last commented 5 pages / 1 week ago, so this is becoming more and more off-topic anyway...

Why does a partner have to go back to working full-time? Starting next month, my wife will work 25 hours again and I will take parental leave for eleven months. So if a man wants, it can be done differently.

Or if you can afford it – but I also said that for many it is a MUST, otherwise the financing doesn’t work. So please consider this in a differentiated way and do not generalize my statement. In our company (and by now at least in many industries) there are plenty of home office opportunities. This can help to achieve a so-called "work-life balance" well. How often do I now hear (or see) colleagues with children at work. Although I am now also an old white man, I have ALWAYS been there for my children and my (ex) wife for almost 16 years through home office. If a man wants, a lot really is possible.