She is absolutely not absurd. Something is also expected of a responsible citizen at a higher instance, namely maturity. I'll keep it brief: After detecting the defect, a written and correct defect notification within two weeks. Even a builder must adhere to rules and must not be careless - even if solidarity is of course rather with the OP from the forum members. The higher instance has to examine all sides and shows no solidarity.
The good thing here is that the contractor can NEVER prove that the builder informed the construction company about the wrong parapet height. If the construction company could prove this, the builder would also have the perfect proof that the defect was reported and the construction company would have had to take action. Consequently, the construction company loses this case. Theoretically, one can still assign the builder some degree of "contributory negligence" because they knew about the matter but did not insist on it again and again in an assertive manner. That is probably "construction law," which the executing companies like to "forget" something every now and then. It is unique in Germany. At least I don’t know any other industry like that. If our customers complain about something, someone goes
immediately there and takes care of it (classic mechanical engineering). But our customers are also not stupid private individuals but large companies with many great lawyers and co.
At first glance, the pictures don’t look that "bad." Depending on whether kitchen units are going to be placed in front of the window in the kitchen or not, it could be acceptable like that. Utility room and guest toilet really aren’t a big deal, and the living room is, I think, more of an "everything in the living room has to be perfect" attitude. Personally, I consider the kitchen window the most important window if the sink and such are directly in front of it. However, it doesn’t matter whether one or four windows have to be fixed. All trades have to show up again, whether they have to rework one or four windows.