Oh man, I had and still have many dreams. For some, it's good that they didn't come true. Imagine what I would have done with the grey horse from the rich prince... I don't like horses, you see. And if I hadn't already been married at 33, I would now have a job 150km away, at least 400 net more every month, and probably would have found my main place of living there.
Summa Sumarum: first work a few years and see to what extent job offers can be found wherever, so that one can "make some career." I consider it absolutely unreasonable to buy a property for self-purpose at 20 and with a cookie. Also no apartment... One can gladly start saving for the dream. And especially in this case, overcoming personal loss, I think it is the wrong way. Rooms (children's rooms) are planned that would already have been occupied. No, no... Accept fate in such a way that you still have a lot of time to enjoy together: travel, go out, and spend it elsewhere, instead of vegetating away in the dream garden.