That sounds reasonable, because a reliable general contractor is already half the battle and saves you a lot of trouble and thus energy :D !!!
Regarding photovoltaics, there is a forum that you can find immediately on Google. In my opinion, however, they mostly speak "Hebrew" there..... luckily, it’s a bit more straightforward here, good for a simple character like me.
A photovoltaic provider was already mentioned to you here further up, if you now also include the electrician of the general contractor, that would already be more than a start. In our case, it was like this: the electrician from the general contractor made a very good offer and we will probably accept it because then everything comes from one source. Maybe it would be a few euros cheaper elsewhere, but having everything from one source is more important to me.
In the other forum, the opinion prevails that photovoltaics always pay off and you should make them as big as possible, even more than 9.8 kWp if possible.
Ultimately, there is no general calculation; we will achieve KfW40Plus but only because we wanted a high insulation standard anyway; therefore, we have to use a storage system anyway, which we will almost get paid for through the Plus subsidy.
As sometimes shown here, you can make a lot look good or bad with storage, and there are thousands of opinions about the modules: some offer longer warranties, others more performance, others a great price...... For me, reliable implementation would also be very important, it’s like with cars, there is a justification for almost everything from Dacia to Lexus.
For us, it will probably be the modules from Solarwatt with a 30-year warranty and made of glass, because the electrician sells and knows them, they are supposed to be good, but the other providers also have their advantages.
In your case, it might be difficult now to build the budget house for the parents, which they then want to live in later as the desired KfW-xy energy-saving house.
Just feeling-wise, I would therefore consider building the house for the parents now and complying with the current energy standard without KfW measures, with which you already have a really good house, the parents probably consume little energy anyway and are thus inherently economical in consumption. If you want to live in it yourself sometime in the future..... who knows what else will come in life, only then would I implement the good and then possible measures at that time, whether photovoltaics or anything else. Until then, today’s standards are already old news again.