Is there currently still a rule for how high the price per m² is for a house with KFW level 40 and KFW level 55?
There is no rule.
Are there already new benchmark values here?
There are benchmark values, which are very different. One includes additional construction costs, another does not. An architect calculates differently than a forum participant.
And with the latter, one should always compare the same reference source as a measure, otherwise you calculate with apples and oranges. The reference point should rather be the valid Energy Saving Ordinance, since every builder achieves their 55 or 40 differently and these means are already very different. The surcharge for an upgrade in a car also costs less for a Polo than for a Mercedes.
Since you entered the building desire phase last year and already received values back then, I would rather have thought that you are the one who can give us current prices.
I often say here: the builder has to do their homework about house prices and co themselves, otherwise they don’t get a feeling for it. The result is a miscalculation that even a forum cannot check or correct, since important data (expert opinions, regional prices, personal works contract and personal wishes) ultimately only come together with the builder.
I could now tell you 2300€/m², but that only applies to a plain solid house with several + (the usual suspects like incidental construction costs, Kfw70, plaster, painter, exterior, carport and furniture) underneath.
Whether the value fits regionally for you, you have to find out.