House bought before marriage and now divorce - what are the options?

And no, I don't want to give up everything voluntarily, but fairly and without costs and much dispute. That's all I want!

Are you paying separation support? How did you come to an agreement?

Do you pay separation maintenance? How did you both agree?

Yes, I also pay separation maintenance.
I cannot say yet how things will proceed after the divorce.

I don't quite understand the comparison with your neighbor? I am the last person to spy on someone.

No, I didn't want to insinuate that to you, but merely express that one might then need to know whether this or another person has moved in as a partner. I just had a visit from next door and I hear that exactly that is currently a big topic there. Is the new person living in now or not. And precisely such things I did not want to have to find out/ask about afterwards, but wanted to have this completely clearly arranged in advance, whether someone is moving in or not, and to lead my independent life alone. If another man lives in "my" house and perhaps also does things there that I don't like at all, that can become an issue. I can only tell you my opinion and that is: clear financial separation and freedom in decisions for both parties

I want to take a middle path and try to please everyone somehow. But I will definitely not forget that I still have to live for about 50 years and will not let everything be "taken away" from me now.

I think a middle path does not do justice to anyone. But tolerance and foresight with some doses of reason and love cannot hurt to create a relaxed atmosphere for everyone.

I am overjoyed that she now has a new partner and hope for her that it lasts forever.

Wish them well! If everyone wishes the other well and holds back a little, then everyone should be fine. Then everyone should feel respected. Your attitude is very good and exemplary. You guys will manage it!

that both can remain owners and borrowers after the divorce for the time being.

That may be the best for the time being. Nevertheless..

whatever you negotiate, do it as thoroughly as possible. Who pays which installment for the house, who pays which rent compensation, what happens if a new partner moves in, who pays for repairs (a single mother can neither maintain the house nor the garden properly) Who gets the increase in value. When will it be sold and much more

.. it must probably be mentioned that sooner or later the new boyfriend of your ex-wife will nicely ask the question that he is basically paying off the house of his girlfriend and ex-husband through his rent and that he would somehow like to talk about the shared house with his girlfriend and the patchwork children in the long run if he is already paying. No offense. But at some point, sometime after the divorce, after some months or years, the property, i.e. the house, should be separated not only economically but also legally. You should prepare yourself for that.

I also believe that the joint ownership of the house should be separated. That will only be an endless source of conflict and problems. You should be able to let go of the house, shed the mental load associated with it. Ideally, you reach a point where it doesn't affect you which new partner lives there and what they do.

One can set a goal to find a solution for her to take over the house, even if she cannot pay you out at the moment. The only thing I can think of is that she buys half, but you somehow defer the payment. Surely there’s a better way. Can she afford the installments to the bank?

One can set a goal to find a solution for how she can take over the house, even if she cannot pay you out at the moment. The only thing I could think of is that she buys half, but you somehow defer the payment. Surely there is a better way. Can she at least manage to pay the installments to the bank?

It is not a disaster to sell the house and the ex moves with the children. They also have a nice home elsewhere (possibly with the ex’s new partner). A house is just bricks. A home is created by the people and love within it – that is not tied to a specific place (wow, I’m sending this to the public broadcaster for the next Rosamunde Pilcher film…)