As you describe your situation: lots of time, lots of experience, but a moderate amount of money... this screams for a property in need of renovation. Since the shell is practically already standing, all work that requires 3 or 4 people working simultaneously and everything involving excavators, mixers, cranes, etc. is eliminated. You gut it and dive into the finishing work. Insulation, electrical, plumbing, all according to your wishes. You can get pretty far with your budget, see for example your calculation - windows. Energy saving regulations etc. can be largely ignored, as long as no one rats you out, no one knows whether the result is the sum of smaller maintenance work spread over years (which is exempt from approval) or a complete renovation (which requires approval including energy-related requirements, possibly structural engineering, and so on).