Community of accrued gains in construction

In the separation, it is important to quickly realize that the family house cannot be kept. The cases I know didn’t manage that, and so a lot of money is wasted. In the worst case, it goes to auction, and then the damage is of course significant.

Yeah, and men always think the land register protects them, I believe the stress factor also arises when the women realize they were taken advantage of.

I always have to think of something a character said in some women's novel (The Man Who's Worth It?) in these cases: "Women don’t have to earn less money to have less money" - so true. I really don’t understand why these girlfriends and wives go along with it. It would NEVER occur to me. Overall, I am very concerned about this development on a societal level. Will aging poverty and women never get better? Don’t we want to teach our daughters at some point to recognize and stand up for their interests?

I always have to think of something a character said in some women's novel (The Man Who's Worth It?): "Women don't have to earn less money to have less money" - so true. I really don't understand why these girlfriends and wives go along with it. It would NEVER occur to me. Overall, however, I am very concerned about this development for society as a whole. Will it never get better with old-age poverty and women? Don't we want to teach our daughters at some point to recognize and stand up for their interests?

I'm glad to have sons who take advantage of their girlfriends (irony off)

About me:

I bought a house and renovated it.
I am the sole name in the land register and pay the installments and renovation costs alone, etc.

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I understand your thoughts on this, what my problem with this solution is unfortunately: As a partner to whom the house does not belong, I would simply have little desire to get involved... why should I spend my weekends working in the garden if it's not even mine...

And when decisions have to be made, for example: do we build a pool or something else... who ultimately decides? The one who pays, or are both equal partners?

You want a modern kitchen, she wants a country style... who decides?

I imagine it's difficult too... you also have to make many compromises... and personally, I just feel differently committed when it's mine...

We also live unmarried with a child in the house, I am registered in the land register, I pay the loan.
My girlfriend also deposits money into the house account.
Whether she mentally sees the house as not her house I cannot say but it is at least the child's birth house.
We both work full-time, the child is chained to the radiator in the basement so everything is fine.

For security, I have created a will and a term life insurance, the beneficiary is my girlfriend.

In summary, however, it must be said that German law clearly favors marriage in terms of legal security compared to unmarried couples.

For me, a partnership, once entered into, is always something quite absolute. All or nothing. If I buy/build a house within the partnership, I also see it as a project of both of us with all shared rights and obligations. What I find so bad is that everyone immediately talks about separation at the start of the relationship. We only did that when I was heavily pregnant and my husband was having stress with his ex-wife. But it would never have occurred to me to "exclude" my partner from my life like that. I see it differently if he brings the house into a new relationship. But by the time the family grows, there should be a joint solution. Be it in a prenuptial agreement, will, or otherwise.