Hello,
Hello! I am very unsure whether I can manage such a project, as I have absolutely no clue about anything, I am not particularly articulate or assertive, have no organizational talent, am not very stress-resistant, and am alone.
Is there still a way to realize such a project without it failing or completely wearing me out?
The first important step is the concrete decision about _which_ system exactly you want to build: prefab or solid house. Once this decision is made, first visit the show home parks in your area to get a feeling for what is possible and what is not. Of course, this presupposes that you know your budget!
Even as a layperson, you will recognize who only wants your best (money) and who is also interested in building a good reference. For example, the classic low-cost builders – even though I do see a legitimate reason for their existence – primarily offer you an apparently unbeatable deal. However, if you add all the equipment details that are important to you – starting with your preferred efficiency house rating and ending with, for example, a floor-to-ceiling shower – you will quickly realize that they also _only_ cook with water and offer a price roughly equal to a provider who already includes these items in the initial offer. This means you move closer and closer to your goal by a process of elimination.
You should also seek a conversation with an architect – maybe that is the right decision for you. If not, your gut will tell you during the initial consultation at the latest. Just make sure to explicitly ask for a non-binding consultation and its costs. Otherwise, an inadvertent word from you could trigger a contract!
At the same time, you should search for a plot of land via the internet or a real estate agent; of course, there is also the option to purchase a building plot through a general contractor (GU). Here, you just have to consider that real estate transfer tax will be due on both land and house if there is an economic connection.
Having gone through all these steps, you should know what you want and can make a first decision, namely how you want to build your house: with an architect in individual contracting, via GU, or designs by an architect and construction via GU. If you decide on GU, pick a maximum of 3 comparable providers and have them price the exact same design for you. Always the same because otherwise you cannot compare. If an architect is supposed to plan for you, this step must naturally come first.
Once you have made a final decision – which requires a build-ready plot as well as your temporary construction partner found – you should involve external expertise to review all documents _before_ signing the contract. This could be a lawyer, the Association of Private Homeowners, the VBZ, the energy agency, or an independent expert. You can also ask them what external construction supervision would cost or commission TÜV® or DEKRA® – as examples – to oversee the construction project.
Taken together, all this will not completely protect your construction project from errors – an incredible number of people are involved in construction, and people do make mistakes. However, it will help limit the error rate to an acceptable minimum.
Good luck!
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