What kind of deviation are we talking about? 1cm or 10cm? Unfortunately, you can’t quite imagine the whole thing yet, where the clearance height is not observed. Which staircase is it about, and is it about the clearance height to the floor slab?
But with a significant deviation, if you have agreed on it with your wife, you should withhold something. If you pay in full, all leverage is gone. But what is crucial is also how big the deviation is and how it could be corrected accordingly to determine the withholding.