How high did you estimate the kitchen, photovoltaic system, and double garage in your calculation?
Kitchen flat rate 10-15000... Photovoltaic I don’t know, I just rounded. With a flat calculation, you should always round up the 10000 on the high side because you need a buffer everywhere. Mostly it’s like this: you round up 10 items, and then it barely fits because you forgot quite a few things again. (For example, chimney/calculated chimney 8000, then calculate 10000, then you still have the forgotten piping or the more expensive design you choose later included.)
Definitely, that’s why we set €400k as the maximum.
In 2019, the average calculation was €2000/sqm living area for the 2016 Energy Saving Ordinance. Basement with 1000/sqm.
Then you have an expensive double garage, the costly photovoltaic system or KfW... it just is what it is: normal earners (like you are) can hardly afford a double garage, a basement, or photovoltaic... somehow some manage one or the other, some are subsidized by their parents, others like you have good starting capital (equity). Others build with a lot of labor themselves or in the cheaper North...
Your wishes include quite a few extras... you have to decide whether you want to spend your equity on that or rather plan based on the living sqm modestly and instead only install better technology like photovoltaic or controlled ventilation.
For me personally, modesty is quite important and more likeable – and if you don’t have well-earning bankers and academics who also build in your circle of friends, then oversized projects can quickly seem unsympathetic and out of touch. But that’s up to you.
We don’t need the basement living area immediately, it’s optional for us at the beginning. Here we could also imagine contributing some labor ourselves, e.g. interior plaster, floors anyway. The advantage is that we then also have enough time for the labor. Heating and electricity must be done directly during construction.
That is of course one way to save money. The question is what you will later pay for it with. Your salary now will not have great saving potential. If parental leave then also reduces a salary, that can be stressful.