Planning a construction project - What is financially feasible?

You first have to find care, flexible at any time. Especially with

... if you came to me like that and understood my hobby = horse as a "cost lever" that you can get rid of when things get tight... I would show you where the bricklayer left the hole!!
I also know women who gave up their horses because of pregnancy or parenthood, they are all really unhappy because of it. And sooner or later another one comes again...
€600 is already a big number, I'm paying about €350 per month.

You have nothing against horses, preferably as salami. In Serbia, there are great specialties.

it is your good right, it was actually not specifically about the horse. But generally saying: the expensive hobby can then go (it can also be gliding or something else) I do not find acceptable, at least not when it does not come from the person who practices the hobby. If he offers to give it up, it is something else.

it is your good right, it actually wasn’t specifically about the horse. But to generally say: the expensive hobby can then be given up (it could also be gliding or something else) I don’t think is okay, at least not if it doesn’t come from the person who practices the hobby. If they offer to give it up, it’s something different.

When things get tight, one has to practice restraint. There are hardly any people who can continue to endure everything as before.

Renunciation is perhaps the wrong word; I would rather call it setting priorities.

At the latest when children are there, a decision like that will probably have to be made. Building a house, full-time, part-time, shift work, children, and horses will not be able to be managed together in the first years without something else suffering.

From a financial point of view, all of this will probably be possible.

It's a question of priorities. This isn't about building: "yes" or "no", but about decisions like "Ikea kitchen + horse" vs. "luxury kitchen" or "boring standard bathroom + horse" vs. "luxury bathroom" and so on. I think we've all reached that one point where the wishes are still big, but the budget is eventually exhausted. And then you start to consider exploring the options... increasing the credit limit, begging relatives, offering household items on Ebay, etc. etc. Especially a time-consuming hobby like "horse" is something I could imagine being questioned again at a later point. It depends on how involved you are in the planning/building process. But currently, I don’t have any more time for my hobby on 4 wheels and regularly wonder if I should convert it into additional household equipment...

Edit: halmi was faster with the same thought...

Renunciation should not be imposed by the other partner. My opinion.

I also can't do as much as before anymore, I admit that, so I have to give up some consumption as well. However, if the choice had been to completely give up the hobby, I would have stayed a tenant.

Time: you can also reduce (so not as often), maybe the grandparents (regularly) help out, they are nearby, look for a riding share... and hope for a girl that you can infect.