The plan is to live in the house for about 15-20 years and then sell it.
We are now 40 and 41, the children are 14. How long am I supposed to live in such a big house? Between 55 and 60 we don’t want to primarily take care of a big house.
That will in all likelihood be the case no earlier than in 10 years,
We have the trait of not forming an emotional attachment to a few piled-up stones
We don’t need a guest room because we don’t want overnight guests.
we are 40 and 41. I can’t imagine living in such a house for longer than 15 years. My wife said just now that she can already imagine it
While reading, I get the feeling of a technically rigidly scheduled life plan; superficially foresighted and casual, but ultimately too smooth and therefore precisely not foresighted in planning; not without reason the wife has already intervened with a correction. We ourselves have lived in various places and very different living situations; nevertheless, we have always arranged things so that it could have lasted permanently, even if at some point we consciously decided otherwise again, since today we don’t know what we will be able to manage tomorrow.
How could one possibly know now, when planning a house, whether oneself, the wife, or one of the children will not still develop an emotional attachment to this new house and therefore cannot sell it in 10-15 years as originally planned? How could one know today whether oneself and/or all family members will still be physically and energetically able in 10-15 years to carry out a new house sale/purchase for the fourth time already; not to mention the unknown constantly changing real estate market.
The striking categorical rejection of any overnight guests is of course none of my business but since it is explicitly mentioned twice here, I do wonder how rigidly the lives of all family members have been planned, when we all should know that life usually plays unknown tricks on us and we therefore have no idea how our lives and those of our family members will develop; and... the life of our teenagers often performs wild somersaults anyway.
You basically write that your house will definitely be sold in 10-15 years, period-exclamation mark, that’s my lifestyle and not like all those rustic hicks who grieve over every stone and paint garden gnomes, that emotional mush. After all, this is already my twelfth—uhm… third house and I know how it goes. Sorry – but that’s how it comes across to me when I read it. For me, but above all also for
all other family members, to now and irrevocably fix the rule that in the next 15 years there can never be an overnight guest in the family home (not even due to illness-related necessity, family problems, wife’s friend, children’s friends, changes in life, etc.) would for me mean exactly the opposite of foresighted planning and freedom in thinking.
Therefore, with such a large house, I would definitely consider possible or so far unimaginable changes in the life of the family.