If you really want to realize what you have in mind, I can only agree with the previous speakers: keep a household budget, save for two to three years, build up sensible equity.
However, I also see an alternative: at our bank, financing with little equity is also requested. Such castles in the air (sorry!) as your initial example naturally burst in this case. However, if customers themselves see that the equity is too low (for whatever reasons, it doesn’t have to be just high consumption, sometimes also family tragedies or being relatively fresh out of university), it often helps to scale down a notch. With a (planned) family of four, it would of course be great to have a detached single-family house with a basement, double garage, large garden, etc. However, many customers take the other route: plan smaller. For your data, for example, a 130 sqm mid-terrace house without a basement, with a single garage and a parking space and a small garden. Of course, your equity is also too small for this project (here in the Ruhr area it is certainly feasible with about €250,000). But with a good income, it is still worth examining. The bank would—if the other creditworthiness data are correct—be more willing to do a 100+x financing for such an amount. A condition might then be a high initial repayment rate to get you practically to save backwards and thereby quickly reach a reasonable loan-to-value ratio under 80%. If you then also include an option to change the repayment rate—so you could, for example, reduce the installment yourself for two years during parental leave—that could certainly be an option worth considering if you want to realize the dream of home ownership right now. And if the income rises again after parental leave (or rather “if,” as there are pitfalls in life), you would have paid off the terraced house quickly.