Thank you all very much for all the tips!!
Regarding the escape route, I happened to think about it yesterday as well.
Our window in the gable wall is actually over 60cm wide and the sill height is also under 1.2m (both required in Bavaria).
However, we chose floor-to-ceiling windows with fixed glazing at the bottom, so now the actual opening height of the window is below the required 1 meter.
I am not sure, though, if it might be enough that the bottom glass would be easy for the fire department to break.
On the other hand, only in the case of 3 children would our bedroom be up there anyway, and we ourselves would comfortably get out through this window.
So I don't know if we might just not care about it.
But we had water installed upstairs alongside electricity, in case a family member wants to actually live there someday.
But that is so far in an uncertain future that we definitely don't want to install a roof window for it now.