Does a moderator necessarily have to take your side? I don't think so, and I also believe that restraint should not be required here, because Yvonne is a member here for good reason.
Usually, people hang out in forums for informational purposes. There, one may / can and should be allowed to ask their questions. The answers don't have to be pleasing. The assessment of other forum members regarding the intended efforts by the original poster, etc., may also sometimes be rightly trimmed. No problem at all, because you know best what you are capable of achieving and what not.
What I do not like is the latent aggressive reaction to the answers. Your pressure to justify yourself is noticeable and some statements are (to put it mildly) often ill-considered, poorly formulated, partly wrong and logically difficult.
I am keeping all available fingers crossed that you "get over the hump" and your plans can be realized as you have intended. We will not point a finger at you afterwards if that should not be the case (but gossip about you behind your back). So don't worry about that, because you wouldn't post this case here anyway.