Construction financing, failure, and setbacks

Phew... That is extremely unpleasant and I wish you all the best for the upcoming time. But I can also imagine that you can mostly take care of the children and are only temporarily knocked out. The meds are now much more tolerable than 30 years ago. And you are in good shape and have support. All positive points to kick the sche××× cancer in the butt. Since we don’t have a house yet, I can’t contribute much on that topic. I will get a BU through the kirchliche Versorgungswerk (which I will do anyway, because you get the contributions back if you don’t use it) and a mutual RLV.

Dear Winniefred!

I wish you the best possible outcome! (meine Schwester hatte auch BK Diagnose) I am really feeling for you right now!

Today, the treatment options are truly impressive and I am convinced that you can handle this too!!

Sending you a big hug!

All the very best from me as well and above all much strength for you and your family. We will soon finalize our financing. Mainly secured is my husband as the current sole earner. We have a RLV that is well above the loan amount and 2 BUs. However, I am also covered by a RLV. In addition, a reserve of 2 years' loan installments should remain in an account. The topic of security was and is very important to us.

my very best wishes for a speedy recovery from me too!
30 years ago the same thing happened in my then marriage; the shock is probably immeasurable for you above all!
To this day, 30 years later, the cancer has never come back, I wish the same for you and with nowadays improved treatment options it should also get better just like that!

Winniefred, I wish you a speedy recovery and all the best. My diagnosis also knocked me for a loop at first, mainly because of my child.

My cancer diagnosis was nearly 30 years ago (not breast cancer), I was 43 years old, a single mother with one child, without child support from the father, I earned well myself and was still paying off an apartment back then. Thanks to sick pay, 6 weeks from the employer and paid vacation, it worked out financially. I had no disability insurance. The treatment was surgery, one month break, and 5 or 6 weeks of radiation, so quite manageable timewise. My daughter was 13 at the time. Occasionally we ate at my parents', my daughter was often at her friend's house. I can’t even remember how the shopping, cooking, etc., were managed. Because during the radiation, I was half the time just a "vegetable." Yes, it was important that she was "taken care of," by whoever. Although I have to say, I’m not the type to expect the laundry to be ironed, the floor spotless, etc., during times like these. There are just more often takeaways.

I'm sorry and get well soon. The main thing is that you get healthy.