However, the discussion is probably over because there are too many inconsistencies. On the one hand, my wife, then the topic of sale/inheritance, etc., and the unrest with "because of me you have everything here".
From the small insights into the situation, I think this is the right decision.
He would prefer the agreement:
Here is the property: build on it, when I die you get a "cheap" right of first refusal. Although, as already explained several times, unfortunately it will not be cheap, but only a postponed purchase/inheritance.
I have already written something about that: a really bad idea without a lot of legal guardrails...
Moreover, with regard to inheritance law, it is also not that simple.
First, relatives in the direct line are entitled to inherit and also to a compulsory portion (another nasty thing).
If none of them exist, only then can it be inherited elsewhere quite easily.
Which sounds doubly unfavorable here: first the property goes to someone else, from whom the property could then be "cheaply" bought. Doesn’t really sound ideal for one’s own house.
(And: yay, first inheritance tax for the heirs, then gift tax when sold below market value by the heir. And if it goes extremely badly, the municipality may exercise its right of first refusal. Okay, the latter is at least very unlikely.)