Climbee
2019-01-04 12:08:29
- #1
Do your parents like you?
I don't really get that impression...
They really used you. Your mother wanted to be paid out, your father wanted to stay in the house. You would have inherited the whole thing anyway if it had stayed in your parents' possession.
Now they carried out their divorce at your expense: Your mom got the money she demanded, your father can continue living in the house without paying anything, and you shelled out 115,000 bucks for it. Nice... And now you're supposed to renovate the house. Honestly: your father has played this very well! You paid out his wife, nothing changes for him, and now you’re supposed to renovate too!
For that, your father has just exempted himself from part of the additional costs. Although I do wonder how it’s supposed to work that he simply says: you can collect these and those costs from my son from now on. You have to agree to that!
Honestly: I would have a serious talk with your father.
The role of the notary would also be interesting (I’m dealing with such a specimen of his profession right now), but that topic is closed.
Agree on a spatial separation; if necessary, you can modify the lifelong right of residence in a bilateral contract so that it becomes clear who lives where and who has NO further claims and who has which obligations.
Regarding renovation or a clear separation of living areas, I would demand financial support from your father. That can’t be enforced legally with the notary contract, but in the interest of maintaining a good relationship (since you already live in the same house), that should be possible.
Additional costs should clearly be divided according to who causes them; that has absolutely nothing to do with the right of residence. If you’re paying the community fees now, then you should settle that nicely in the future. At least agree that your father transfers a monthly amount to you for that.
I hope the house is worth the effort you have put in.
I don't really get that impression...
They really used you. Your mother wanted to be paid out, your father wanted to stay in the house. You would have inherited the whole thing anyway if it had stayed in your parents' possession.
Now they carried out their divorce at your expense: Your mom got the money she demanded, your father can continue living in the house without paying anything, and you shelled out 115,000 bucks for it. Nice... And now you're supposed to renovate the house. Honestly: your father has played this very well! You paid out his wife, nothing changes for him, and now you’re supposed to renovate too!
For that, your father has just exempted himself from part of the additional costs. Although I do wonder how it’s supposed to work that he simply says: you can collect these and those costs from my son from now on. You have to agree to that!
Honestly: I would have a serious talk with your father.
The role of the notary would also be interesting (I’m dealing with such a specimen of his profession right now), but that topic is closed.
Agree on a spatial separation; if necessary, you can modify the lifelong right of residence in a bilateral contract so that it becomes clear who lives where and who has NO further claims and who has which obligations.
Regarding renovation or a clear separation of living areas, I would demand financial support from your father. That can’t be enforced legally with the notary contract, but in the interest of maintaining a good relationship (since you already live in the same house), that should be possible.
Additional costs should clearly be divided according to who causes them; that has absolutely nothing to do with the right of residence. If you’re paying the community fees now, then you should settle that nicely in the future. At least agree that your father transfers a monthly amount to you for that.
I hope the house is worth the effort you have put in.