And the next one who wants to know if it works :)

Since we just finished building our house with a toddler ... build before the child arrives. It really makes things much easier (I know it’s asking a lot when the desire to have children grows stronger). It can run quite smoothly, like with us. Grandma took care of the little one (2.5 years old) almost every weekend in the last 2 months, so we could hustle at the construction site. During that time, we struggled heavily with our guilty conscience. Although I know it’s also for him and he feels really comfortable with grandma and grandpa, it gnaws at you a lot. It was also annoying that during the week we rarely really relaxed from the weekend. Such a little child is exhausting. Or it runs like with our relatives. House renovation and the wife is pregnant with twins. So he is constantly alone at the building site. The relationship suffers greatly. He only sees her lazing around at home with the children and she only sees how he leaves her alone with the children and escapes to the house. In short, go deep within yourselves and discuss how you want to arrange the timing and whether grandma would step in to help with the care.

Regarding the costs of the initial equipment: it can be very cheap if you look for used items. Ikea dresser with changing top (new): 90 € Children’s bed (used): 100 € 3-in-1 stroller used from e.g. ABC Design: under 200 € Clothes from size 50 to 74 (used): under 200 € Small stuff like pacifiers, bottles, tub, changing pad, bedding/sleeping bag, ...: around 200 € You also get a lot as gifts. Diapers are manageable. For the very little ones, I swear by Pampers, but from size 3 you can safely switch to Babylove and such. They are significantly cheaper. Much worse is the formula milk. If breastfeeding is not possible and the child only tolerates Aptamil (worst case), you pay easily 100 € per month. Daycare fees for under 3s: 100 - 700 € (depending on hours)

I always find it interesting that the opposite exists and parents support the family with time or finances.

Interesting? That's called family and is based on reciprocity.

Better to build before the child is born and keep reserves for the first 2-3 years with loss of income ready