Your assessment - justified "fear of life"?

2017-05-12 06:51:20

ah 2 men OKAY :p

then it's fine

2017-05-12 08:19:18

ah 2 men OKAY [emoji14]

then it fits

What is that comment supposed to mean, Hilfehilfe? Even if it is meant to be funny.. I myself am lesbian, I also don't want children, but there are many who develop a desire to have children. Even if adoption law does not yet treat us equally, from today’s perspective we would be "good enough" for the youth welfare office for foster children .... There is nothing funny about that. There should be no difference whether two men, two women or a man and a woman live together.

2017-05-12 08:55:32

What is the comment "Help help" supposed to mean now? Even if it's meant to be funny.. I myself am lesbian, don't want children either, but there are many who develop a desire to have children. Even if adoption law does not yet treat us equally, from today's perspective we would be "good enough" for the youth welfare office for foster children…. There is nothing funny about that. It shouldn't make a difference whether two men, two women, or a man and a woman live together.

no, all good, I have zero problems with that. But as you describe it, it's more like male couples tend not to have children or hardly at all compared to female couples.

that's okay too

Male couples usually also have more money. I have 2 couples in the family. Good jobs, enjoy life, and also like to share. The children are always generously gifted.

That's why fear of life here is not appropriate. Children just cost money

2017-05-12 09:16:24

We are currently leaning towards abandoning the whole project. We somehow feel relieved with this option. The plot was not our number one choice but rather about 50-100 sqm larger than planned, then purely north-facing. We have said from the start that we don’t want to completely limit ourselves just for the house and don’t want to push it too hard... and in this direction we have drifted over the last few days. The final step is difficult because the real estate market here is so bad (we are not opposed to a nice condominium either).

It is probably because we are not “passionate” about it, but approached it with the mindset to see how far we get, feel good about it, and not force anything.

2017-05-12 10:37:55

What is this comment "helphelp" supposed to mean?
Even if it's meant to be funny..
I myself am lesbian, I don't want children either, but there are many who develop a desire to have children. Even if adoption law does not yet put us on equal footing, from today’s perspective we would be considered "good enough" by the youth welfare office for foster children....
There is nothing funny about it. It should make no difference whether two men, two women, or a man and a woman live together.

Helphelp didn’t write anything at all..why do you immediately feel so pissed off?

Regards, Steffen (who thinks..children need mom+dad, especially if they cannot choose)

2017-05-12 10:42:12

We are currently leaning towards abandoning the whole project. With that option, we somehow feel relieved. The plot was not our number one but rather about 50-100 sqm larger than planned, then purely facing north. From the beginning, we said that we wouldn’t completely restrict ourselves just for the house and didn’t want to push it through no matter what... and in the last few days, we have drifted in that direction. The final step is hard to take because the real estate situation here is so bad (we’re not opposed to a nice condominium either).

It’s probably because we’re not "burning" for it, but approached it in a way that we see how far we get, feel good about it, and don’t force anything.

Hello again,

financially it fits, of course. If at your core you feel uncomfortable because it doesn’t meet your requirements, I would let it go.

Honestly, building or having something built costs nerves and energy, which can definitely affect the relationship. If you already have a bad gut feeling, leave it.

There are countless other properties that can be bought, built, or rented.

Your assessment - justified "fear of life"?

HilfeHilfe

souly75

HilfeHilfe

sweettalker

Steffen80

HilfeHilfe