New single-family house - realistic estimate of construction costs? Experiences?

If you present it factually, that's something else, instead of becoming offensive. I find the tone here quite borderline.

no one is insulting anyone here...

no one is insulting anyone here...

Quoting via tapatalk is a pain, so just an example. Take a look at Wilhelm's last post. Insults also manifest in terms of context, tone/expression, and topic. You are massively attacking a stranger and their lifestyle as well as their relationship here, in my opinion. That is really enough.

yes ok he got a bit of relief. The wife of the OP does not read along here anyway^^

I have also been snapped at before because I represent the worldview that a woman mostly stays at home part-time... Not many people agree with that.

But I'm with Wilhelm on that. Equality looks different. Or has anyone ever asked the woman how she imagines the house in which she cleans ^

and of course she will be allowed to contribute financially to living expenses if money gets tight. AFTER ALL, MAN wants to keep his house

Hm. As far as the tone is concerned, I agree with Alex85. However, I see the same points critically and also think that they must be addressed. On the other hand, the tone sets the mood.

Here, there is simply an extreme imbalance built into the plan that a) hinders the financing ( topicrelevant ) and b) reveals something about the inner attitude ( OT ), which basically leads to doubts about the plan of building a house as a "shared nest."

And this must be put on the table. Also clearly. But not unobjectively.

I have tried to express my opinion on this without sugarcoating anything, but at the same time without really hitting anyone hard. This can go wrong, but something has to be said, in my opinion.

If you don’t question life plans in a house building forum, then where? Building a house along with mutual obligations IS pure life planning after all.

And regarding the statement that there is an enormous disadvantage for the life partner, who is driven so far that the house becomes ( too ) small, also at the expense of the children later on, I stand by that. There are also very valid arguments for it.

Children change everything in such constellations. This desired clear separation is not only impossible, it is not even sensible ( and logically derivable either ). Fact!

Factual opinion: If you want to carry the project alone, the bank will not give you the loan (the way you want it)! Why? Because in case of separation, you will have to pay maintenance of 3 times 350€ each. In addition, there will probably be a "compensation" for the woman. Yes, you are not married, but with 3 children you have a marriage-like community, good luck explaining that differently to the judge!

Personal opinion: Your wife should get away from an egoist like you as soon as possible xD Married life at eye level ... you should rather build in the Middle East and put a headscarf on your wife and forbid her to drive ...

That is absolutely not acceptable.

Bottom of the barrel.

That is absolutely not acceptable at all.
Bottom of the barrel.

Everyone has their opinion. You yours. Me mine.
That’s why the second part was presented under "Personal Opinion."
Also, the smiley "xD" implies that it’s not meant 100% seriously.
If you don’t like it, I can’t change that.
However, I also included a factual opinion in this post that relates to the topic.
Unlike your post... : )