Cost coverage for fencing that is not desired

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Demanding is stupid from both sides. First, talk calmly.

Well, honestly, a fence that has to be there anyway is not really something you have to plan in detail. And when it comes to a semi-detached house, it’s usually clear beforehand that something will be placed on the boundary between the neighbors, right?
If I read the source from correctly, there is something 1.2m high, of which you pay 50% of what the whole thing would cost in chain-link fence. You just have to consider whether a privacy fence would be okay for you or not. Then you’re well off if he takes care of the rest?

According to the Hessian statute, a hedge is also possible as a boundary. And of course something has to go in the middle, the question is only to what extent we have to submit to the neighbor’s wishes. As I said, we wanted a hedge or something green. My previous idea was that I do it on OUR property at MY expense. The neighbor does his... whatever he wants.

Whether you can demand that, I don’t know. But if the neighbor is pragmatic, he will see the advantage of doing it all at once.

I want to scold you a little, not meant personally: If there are these differences in levels and you are filling up, and further privacy screening is planned, then the fence planning belongs at the very beginning!? Especially with a semi-detached house. That it caught you unprepared now is annoying, but in my opinion, your strategy surprised you.

That’s why we already had L-stones set during the earthworks. The privacy screen was supposed to be mounted on them. And later on, simply a hedge. That would not have involved or restricted the neighbor either.

Demanding is stupid from both sides. First, talk calmly

I think the same, the only annoying thing is that he approaches me every other time at the construction site and wants a commitment that we share the costs. Yet there isn't even an offer.

We can sit down together and compare our ideas, but honestly, I don't think he will accept anything other than the fence he wants on the other three sides anyway.

Here it talks about demanding and submitting. Why?

I find it normal to set something shared on the boundary in a semi-detached house. Apparently your neighbor does too. And that one tries to agree on a proposal for shared costs is then logical.

My previous idea was that I do it on OUR property at MY expense. The neighbor does his... whatever he wishes.

But with a shared boundary, that is not the obvious idea, I think.

We have attached our semi-detached house in Fulda (Hessen) to an already existing, completed semi-detached house. We are currently at the shell construction stage and the windows are supposed to arrive in 3 weeks. Until now, our plot was undeveloped.
Our soon-to-be neighbor has approached us, saying he would like to put a fence between the two semi-detached houses and has already spoken with the local garden landscaper. He intends to fence his entire property and wants to start promptly so that the garden can be used in summer.
[ / ] That's why we already had L-walls installed during the earthworks. The privacy screen should be mounted on them. And later simply a hedge. That would not have involved or limited the neighbors.
[ / ] Honestly, I don’t believe he will accept anything other than the fence he wants anyway on the other 3 sides.

That you are not yet ready in your mind (given your comparatively recent building status) for the chapter "enclosure" is no free pass for feeling annoyed by his absolutely legitimate wishes. If I were him, I would also speak in neighborly communication in normal everyday German about a "fence" instead of the neutral but legally sounding term enclosure. I do not see any exclusion or rejection of a hedge in that, and your assumption of his inflexibility in imagining a neighborly boundary determination only in the same design as the surrounding fencing is something he certainly does not deserve. On the contrary: you yourself say he spoke about the project with a garden landscaper (so not a fence builder, but a contractor more suitable for plant-based spatial structuring).

Put yourself in his position once: spring is approaching, and as is well known, summer is not far behind. Would it be comfortable for you to imagine the neighbor’s child and dog – or more precisely: that their frame of reference cannot do anything with a virtual boundary line on a site plan – could pose dangers to the integrity of your flower meadow?
Would you want to postpone your move into the new house including the step "perception of the gardening season" just because the neighbor is not yet ready and his half of the property is still in the stage of a "military training ground"?

What L-walls have to do with the story is not clear to me: is there a terrain difference between the two halves, and who would be the upper layer (and responsible for drainage)?

Tell your neighbor that you find a hedge as the boundary enclosure more sympathetic. If I were in his place and asked my beloved lady whether she would insist on a color coordination with the fence on the other sides in this case, she would surely burst out laughing. Maybe his wife is different and wants the fence in dark green – not your problem. Arrange with the garden landscaper to pay your half of the hedge in 12 monthly installments, surely a fair solution can be found. The day of full payment can then be celebrated together with a barbecue. The beer spilled while tapping will then fertilize your lawn. This is how virtual problems are solved easily!