Status update: For now, it continues with the developer, although the unsigned agreement did not exactly please the developer's representative and he was noticeably cold during the conversation, at least he did not insist on signing it. Nevertheless, the situation/progress is now as follows:
[*]Rough planning of the house until the conclusion of a contract for work
[*]The contract for work is to be concluded as soon as possible according to the developer's plans; only then will he guarantee us the plot of land
[*]Only after the conclusion of the contract for work and the development of the construction site will he conclude the purchase contract for the land with us; the contract for work is suspended and ineffective until then and only becomes effective when financing is secured and the land purchase contract is signed. This ensures that only those who will actually build with him will buy land.
But it is true that in a way this is a "take it or leave it" option. With a developer-free plot, one could calmly approach various construction companies after purchase until the ideal offer is found. In the above scenario, this option does not exist and you are at the mercy of the developer, for better or worse. Sure, he makes a professional impression, but if something goes wrong... Not to mention the costs. Due to the bait of the land, he can ultimately set a higher price than perhaps without the land-binding.
Currently, we are looking for other building plots but are not really finding anything. The plot mentioned above is located far outside the city gates, but offers a quiet, rural setting. Two alternatives would be somewhat closer to the city on a regenerated barracks site or a building plot near a four-lane access road. Neither is ideal. So we are now in the unpleasant situation that the developer is pushing a bit, nice alternatives are not really available, and we are asking ourselves "yes or no," will something better come along, is this already the optimum?
Therefore, a small side question to the forum: How do I find suitable building plots? Driving around and searching only works to a limited extent since we have two small children who quickly start complaining when we cross the city. Also, there isn’t necessarily a "for sale" sign everywhere. Knocking on neighbors' doors at existing building gaps is out of the question for me, I’m too shy and would feel very strange, especially since surely others have already done that before me. Internet portals often offer "only" bait offers from construction companies with great houses at bargain prices on non-existent or terrible plots.
It’s like cursed: We have the desire but just can’t find anything suitable!