Anyone who has parquet installed in the kitchen is really beyond help. You can only do that if you consider the kitchen exclusively as a showroom or are extremely meticulous about wiping away every stain immediately.
We didn't put a plastic mat under the little one's high chair without reason, otherwise the parquet there would probably already be black.
Anyone who finds themselves needing to sand their parquet after just 3 years should rather have click vinyl or tiles installed. Because after 3 years it will look like that again. How thick is the wear layer supposed to be? 10mm?
Moreover, sanding is an enormous effort. All furniture out, baseboards off, sanding, sealing, everything back in. I would just lay new flooring...
PS: The thicker the parquet, the worse the heat conduction of the underfloor heating, by the way. Anything over 12mm is basically just energy nonsense.