Is it really the case that the tiler is allowed to lay tiles however he likes without talking to the customer first? With me, every trade that leaves a visible appearance after the shell construction has talked to me. The tiler spoke at record-breaking speed about random patterns, cross joints, profiles, and handed out 120 information sheets about what he has to comply with and especially what he does not have to comply with...
Something must have gone completely wrong here. Especially that apparently no one was on site even once while the tile guy was laying tiles... I went there and talked to the guy. That would have avoided some discrepancies. He gladly explained everything to me and showed me how he sets the tiles. Talk to the craftsmen, stop by, and occasionally bring coffee and rolls... helps a lot. Even if you have to take a day off...
Correcting a complete disaster easily costs a week of vacation, if not a month.