Is something like that common, especially on that scale?
Honestly: if you behave as "exemplarily" clumsy as you do, then yes. You have done so many things wrong that with a little experience one can read that astonishingly clearly from so little history.
Going to a general contractor unprotected by an architect or any other construction consultant was the first mistake: they make most of their profit from people who put themselves on the slaughterbench. At least you should have had the contract and the construction service description professionally and legally reviewed by experts – lawyers also do this for well-invested money. Supplements and upgrade options are basically "earned on the drinks," that’s fundamentally how it works. Particularly blatantly legal and shameless is when two very different demands come together: the client with top-notch wishes and the GC with a "standard" that barely manages an industrial country level with difficulty (because the descriptions here all sound as if the calculation basis for the changes to the equipment – at least measured against your expectations – is cheap junk). For the "extra charge" for the door, you normally get a whole door that is already something fancy (unless it comes from the jeweler). So either you have several octaves above average exquisite wishes, or the price zero point of the "extra charge" is a flimsy "stock frame." The delta sounds similar for the stairs; here was just ahead of me with the remark on whether it is a golden electric escalator.
From a business process standpoint, it is absolutely proper to agree on the additions during the sampling conversation and treat the protocol as part of the contract with regard to the additions. The mistakes here were number one, that you chose a GC whose standard ideas differ expensively far from yours. Then as mistake number two, you added on top of that with a big spoon, discussing those highly price-relevant supposed "details"
after signing the price offer. The invitation to generously punish what I will call "clumsiness" cannot be missed by the GC, understandably. To let yourselves be ripped off that thoroughly, you could have just as well taken one of the notorious big names, where only the legal department is bigger than the marketing department, instead of a locally recommended GC as your first choice. Frankly, you behaved like calves who choose their butcher themselves.
The surcharge "tax" of 25% and the removal discount of 15% margin compensation are above average in amount but quite typical for the market in substance. I wouldn’t be surprised if the same GC has contract templates with other rates in the drawer for more skillful customers.
Oak folding structure with glass railing for a total of 35k (2 stairs), 22k is just the upgrade surcharge.
For cost reasons, we have meanwhile decided against a wooden stair and now want exposed concrete. We are not afraid to remove the stairs, we would actually like that, since our construction manager is reluctant to install concrete stairs.
For heaven’s sake, don’t do that. Don’t make your mistakes even worse. If you stay with this GC, then on such central core elements of the shell construction, you must stick to the 11ant Steinemantra, at least when it comes to the stair type: choose one that the GC has in his "Schema F repertoire"!
My plan A here would clearly be, quick as a flash to make an appointment with a lawyer and explore for what kind of compensation you could exchange the GC for one whose ideas of "standard" do not deviate so bloodily from yours.
It is by no means turnkey.
Then I’ll take a break now until you bring us significantly more clarity about your contract scope. Is this GC only supposed to make a weatherproof shell, and afterwards you will financially suicide the further trades yourself with your negotiation skills in a next act of the drama?
Would you perhaps (in another thread) quickly show us the house to be built here (also with views)?