My property, building together

One this way, the other that way. In life, I would not want to marry like that, not at all, and the OP has also expressed this, which I think is good. Especially since it can be resolved differently, and the lawyer and notary will also inform the consumer individually.

What do you mean by "not marrying like THAT"? As far as I know (and it was exactly the same for us), both say "Yes, I do" and the deal is done. Whether with house construction or without...

I see it like Kaho – a shared house binds more than a marriage. Without a house and shared purchases, a divorce is no big deal – a separation with a house, whether married or not, is likely far more complicated. So, in short: I should consider BEFORE starting the house construction whether I seriously want to grow old with the person. If in doubt, I would either build alone or, if that's not possible alone, stay away from it. And if I can confidently say "Yes" here, I can also marry and enjoy all the advantages that come with it. You still have to arrange plenty, but some things are taken care of by this simple "yes" (especially the matter of death is clear and resolved in favor of the partner).

We didn't need a marriage, but it doesn't hurt either, it didn't change our relationship and the party was cool

I would never want to get married like that in my life,

No, me neither. You can always have the party afterwards. But I would never want to build a house like that either, and that is existentially much more significant. Apart from the question of children and so on.

No, me neither. You can always have the party later. But I would never want to build a house like that in my life, and that weighs existentially much heavier. Apart from the question of children, etc.

Therefore, individual, individual perspective. Facts and possibilities from the notary/lawyer and compare these with the individual attitude towards life. But I am sure that there will be a good solution. Well, and the marriage, we will see. Wishing all the best and kindly asking to inform us what the notary/lawyer said.

I don't understand why there still needs to be speculation about this!

None of us can individually help here, no one! Only the advice to make an appointment with a lawyer/notary can be the right help here!

I am not speculating, this is fact. A bank does not care about a notarized agreement. If the woman is not listed in the land register, she is liable with her personal assets, and that does not include the house since it is not in the land register.

I am not speculating, that is a fact. A bank does not care about a notarized agreement. If the woman is not listed in the land register, she is liable with her personal assets, and that does not include the house since it is not in the land register.

No clarification, there can be none on our part!

Notary/lawyer and that's it, there can be no other answer, at least if one wants to provide meaningful assistance.

That does not mean that other viewpoints may not be posted and/or that there cannot be fretting and rambling.