The topic is admittedly a bit older... but I still want to write something about it.
Basically, what you earn is quite decent. Especially public service, civil servant. Not much can go wrong there, I guess.
Your calculation seems a bit tight to me.
Depending on where you want to build.
I am also from the area around KA. Slightly north. In the middle of nowhere.
And I paid a whopping 68,000 euros for a small middle terraced house plot.
The house prices at Weberhaus are very well calculated. The equipment is excellent.
And everything you want extra is communicated to you immediately with a price. No surprises await you!
But, as I said: the basic equipment at Weberhaus is really good!
The topic of the basement is a thing. Especially here in the Rhine Rift Valley.
The groundwater is very high. The soil is silty.
I can’t avoid a “Weiße Wanne” (watertight concrete cellar).
That’s an extra 40,000 euros. For 50 sqm!
So. But back to the topic of financing.
I am a single parent with two children. Public service.
I earn a bit(!) more than you – but nowhere near double. So I have significantly less money available. My equity was the land paid for in cash.
I am quite satisfied with the financing at Ing-Diba. I will pay about 1200 euros monthly. 4% repayment.
So I think, with your dual income, it is definitely doable.
I would be happy to hear from you!