It’s always funny how here, without further background knowledge, people immediately make judgments about others instead of just answering questions.
Feel free to address me directly; I can handle it.
Freely following the proverb "who can read is often at an advantage," I have done so and therefore know that a woman is at least "somehow" involved in a completely unplanned house purchase (feels/is) and partly relies on evaluations from acquaintances with "little knowledge" for a property that apparently no one wanted to buy before.
Since she obviously – rightly so – is worried or at least seriously considering it, she wants feedback. Mine is honest, and I believe she is capable of accepting it. She probably needs fewer shoulder pats; they won’t be the ones paying the bill later.
Buying such a property and – by her own admission – with no experience at all, is in my opinion an absolute harakiri act, which is why I would immediately sell it (hopefully at market value).
There are partially experienced home builders and experts here; I cannot imagine that any of them would cheer the OP with a joyful "Well done" or "It will be fine," because they know the risk at least from their own long-planned and secured house construction.
Maybe I have already experienced too many similar scenarios that mostly ended in chaos; at least for me, all imaginable alarm bells are ringing with this depicted, completely unprepared project.
THIS is what I want to express with this and to encourage the OP to seriously reconsider.
It was not my intention to judge you or anything; for reasons I have experienced professionally many times, I wanted to clearly tell you that you should definitely let your boyfriend handle this gamble alone, because in my opinion, it is nothing else. Sorry if it came across differently to you; then I want to apologize for that.
I believe the facts presented by the OP are significant enough; still, thanks for your clear notice!