First of all, many thanks for your numerous answers.
I already suspected that the desire for a gallery would be a sticking point here. Since I have never built a house before, the question arises as to why a house with a gallery has to be so much more expensive than one without? I understand that the entire house has to be built somewhat larger, but fewer ceilings and walls have to be built inside. The dreamer in me somehow hoped that this would balance out somehow. Apparently, it does not.
Does anyone have experience with how much additional costs a gallery entails compared to a house without a gallery in terms of the price per square meter?
Does anyone perhaps have an actual empirical value?
Considering the fact that we do not place great value on large bedrooms or a huge bathroom, I think that 3 bedrooms, plus living room plus gallery can certainly be realized in a 130 square meter house. Whether this is feasible in terms of price is, of course, another matter.
And just briefly between us... for me this topic, as I have apparently impressively proven, is absolute terra incognita. Please forgive my naivety in view of the green spots behind my ears. It is always amazing to see how some people rave in internet forums... Yes, some even lack words