Is that really envy? Do they just not understand? Do they secretly envy you?
Is that still Bremen or more the surrounding area?
I know that Bremen is a bit special in that regard (my father lives there and his wife is a native of Bremen). Even in the well-off areas, people tend to live rather modestly and don’t flaunt it. At least the old established residents. The nouveau riche are already showing off again, which then raises some eyebrows.
Perhaps this can be transferred as a sociocultural parallel shift even into lower income classes?
No idea, I’m just speculating.
Personally, I’m not sure what I would find better for the development of my child. Maybe to be unjustly envied and admired or, conversely, to always feel somewhat underprivileged and unable to keep up with the peer group.
For my part, I had friends from really well-off families in childhood, and one could say that it sparked a certain ambition in me because we were not quite as well off (even though I never saw myself as underprivileged).
You say you’ve lost friendships. Did that really come from them, or did you just eventually lose the desire to keep explaining yourself?
Until that last post about the environment, I was rather thinking of some unresolved buried trauma that makes you look for constant change and the pot at the end of the rainbow. Like you’re afraid to settle and be content. Or you don’t allow yourself to be.
But I can understand the thing about the environment. At least that it preoccupies you.
For me, for example, it’s the high proportion of Baby Blue voters that already hits me hard as a PoC.
But my immediate neighbors are okay, and I’m building my little paradise with my family. That’s enough, and even though we still have a lot to do here, I already see us as having arrived and basically feel comfortable in the situation.
If it’s simply the need for a project. I actually think you can improve and beautify a lot around the house, even if you’re basically satisfied with it.
You can theoretically do that with the environment as well, through neighborhood initiatives, street festivals, and flea markets.
If you’re seen as a “big shot” in the corner but show up for the neighborhood with a commitment of time and effort, then you will surely be perceived differently than if you metaphorically lie down on a golden sofa in the garden without privacy screens (now exaggerating on purpose).